Thursday, 31 March 2011

Legal Access for Granparents - Good or Bad?

According to today's press, the legal rights of grandparents may be strengthened in the future. The Telegraph reports that the commission set up to review family law is recommending sweeping changes.

One of these is that grandparents will be allowed to apply to the courts for access to their grandchildren. Not that they will automatically be granted access, but that they can apply for access without going through the lengthy and costly process of asking the courts for permission to do so. This would be similar to the legal situation of step-parents, who lived with a child for longer than 3 years and are able to apply for a contact order to stay in touch with their step-child.

Other proposals include that families who go through divorce will have to go through mediation, and that children may have more legal rights - so that they can decide which parent they wish to live with.

If this comes into law, then it will ease things considerably for the estimated 50% of grandparents who lose contact with their grandchildren when the parents divorce. Those who have sons are least likely to continue seeing the grandchildren.

It is clear that there are sometimes situations where there is good reason for the lack of contact - the grandparents were abusive, or disinterested, or lived far away making personal contact more difficult- but sometimes it is simply because the adults in the family were unable to patch up their differences for the sake of the children.

Whether it was the mother in law being unreasonable or the daughter in law being too precious - particularly mother-daughter-in-law relationships can be difficult. Interfering MIL who will not let her DIL raise her children as she thinks is right, or who believes that her son could have done better.

You only have to look at some of the threads on Mumsnet about mother-in-law problems to see that it is not just the grandparents who can be unreasonable. There are often threads where a new mum is being oversensitive to the comments made by her mother-in-law, or is cross because MIL allows the children to do things that she would not (which is pretty much the definition of a grandparent, in my eyes). 

Sometimes even petty arguments can get so out of hand that both sides feel there is no going back.

When there are hurt feelings from a nasty divorce, and the parents-in-law side with their son or daughter, it can make the wounded spouse decide to cut contact. 

Someone on Mumsnet wrote today, 


I do agree with the fact that no-one has rights but the children - adults have the responsibilities. The children have the right to have healthy, loving relationships. Everyone else has the responsibility to make that happen.

with which I concur wholeheartedly. And if the parents and grandparents are unable to act in a responsible manner, is it right that the law steps in and forces contact for the good of the children?

Or do you agree with the other poster who worried that sorting it out legally does not mean that the two parties are then in agreement - but that if the contact is forced, that the children will continue to be used as pawns in a game. Is it better for them to have contact with their grandparents, even when they are aware that their parent is unhappy with this, indeed is only doing it because a judge decreed it?

I am torn. On the one hand, I have so much sympathy for those who lose contact with their grandchildren, on the other hand what about the women have good reason to block contact. Or think they do. Perhaps it is good that the grandparents have the opportunity to appeal for access so that the courts can decide on what is best for the children.

We are extremely lucky in that both sets of grandparents are wonderful people who love and care for our children. Our children are close to their grandparents, despite living very far away and only seeing them a few times a year. I cannot imagine depriving them of the contact. 

What do you think? Would you welcome such a change?


Wednesday, 30 March 2011

Baking in Switzerland - Where to buy Baking Powder, Soda etc

Availability of Baking Ingredients in Switzerland

If you found this blog because you googled, "where to buy baking powder in Geneva" or "where to buy self-raising flour in Switzerland" - read on.



Baking Powder - I buy in Manor in little tubs. Don't be fooled by the sachets by Dr Oetker - they are German style Backpulver which is, I have been informed a one rise agent. You need a two rise agent to get really fluffy British or American style cakes. I used to buy it in France, again don't be fooled by Dr Oetker, you need the stuff called Levure Chimique.

Baking Soda - Also in Manor. In our store, it is next to the cake decorating stuff.

Self-Raising Flour - This is tricky, but you can buy it in France if you are near the French border. It is called Farine de Gateaux. There is a way to make it yourself, but I have never needed to. I have never seen it in Germany or in Switzerland, even in Suisse Romand.

Creme of Tartar - Even more tricky - go to a chemist  and ask for Creme de Tartre, and in the German speaking part of the country ask for Weinstein. They will look puzzled at this but will put it down to you being an eccentric foreigner.

Happy Baking!

Tuesday, 29 March 2011

And the winner is...

me!

Not one, but two charming ladies have awarded me a prize.





The aim of this award, the Liebster Award (which surely originated in Germany?) is to promote smaller blogs with less that 300 subscribers.

I was tagged by a wonderful woman who I got to know through the whole Eastenders babysnatching storyline, Caz who blogs about her life After Anabelle. Caz's gorgeous little girl was born too soon and sadly did not survive. After such a devastating event in her life, Caz turned to online friends for support and has found a great group of women on Mumsnet who are there for each other through thick and thin. Her blog is incredibly honest, well written and very touching.

The second tag was from creative blogger MumOfAllTrades who puts me to shame with her fantastic sewing projects, and great artistic ideas. Do try out her yummy sausage casserole.

Ok. So on to my top tips for blogs that you might not know.



One of my favourite blogs is Gentle Otter's tales of a Scottish country farm. Think Peter Mayles, without the sun and lavender.







A special tip for today, is the brand new blog Wordbitten where readers can snap a bite of the story in small installments. Claire is a wonderfully talented writer who I have been nagging to blog - I will of course take all credit for the success of her blog.






I just recently discovered the amusing This Mid 30s Life (I have forgotten where) and love her view of life in UK through Australian shaped spectacles. Today she seems to be talking of bidets with blowdrying function and decorating your ladygarden. Sounds like my kind of blog.






Now, I know that there are lots of bloggers who do this meme thing, and those that don't really. I mainly don't tbh, but thought this was a good one to introduce some of my favourite bloggers to you. If you have been tagged, and don't want to do this, then I will not be upset and cross you off my Christmas card list.

Dora - Chapter 3

Chapter Three  


Start by reading Chapter One and Chapter Two






Stuffing her magazine into her carry-on bag, Dora stood and walked to the counter, placing her passport in the outstretched hand of the air hostess. She turned her face slightly so that the other woman could not see her bruises. Though they were less noticeable than they had been a few days ago, she was still conscious of the curious looks of strangers. Handing back Dora's passport the hostess wished her a pleasant flight.

Her head down, her mood sombre, Dora walked cautiously down the steps to the waiting bus. Other travelers jostled for space in the bus, positioning themselves near the doors, ready for a fast disembarkment. Dora grimaced as an older woman dug an elbow in her back; she considered telling her that the plane would not take off without her and that an aisle seat really wasn't that important. Biting back the comment she shuffled further away, jolting backwards as the bus moved off. The bus driver was one of  the accelerator to the floor when not stationary type of drivers and Dora clung onto a nearby pole to prevent a rough landing. Swearing under her breath, she shifted her grip on her carry on bag as the bus slew to a halt at the aircraft.

Dora stood aside to let the manic passengers past and looked back at the airport. Alex would be on her way home by now. She had been upset when she left Dora at passport control, but pretended that everything was great, that Dora was off on a great adventure. She had barely left Dora's side since Friday evening, accompanying her to the hospital and police station to give their statements. The policewoman who had dealt with her case had been gentle and kind, but nothing could detract from the utter horror and incomprehension she still felt when she looked back at the events of that last evening in her apartment.

"Miss? We need you to get on the plane now", the air hostess said gently, putting paid to the assumption that she hadn't noticed my bruises, Dora thought wryly.

A short time later, the plane taxied to the runway and Dora was glad that she had lingered on the tarmac. The only free seat was an aisle one and so she was spared the sight of her beloved London fading slowly below the clouds.

Blinking back tears, she thought about the past few days. She tried to concentrate on the positive moments. How her friends and family had rallied, how many supportive phone calls, text messages and emails she had received. And above all, the continuing care and love that Alex had given her. She had always known that Alex was a good friend, but the events of the weekend made her realize how much she would miss her.

The rattling of the trolley was a welcome distraction, “Tea, coffee, snacks… Can I get you anything, Miss?”

Dora straightened her shoulders, “I don’t suppose  you have champagne?”

The air hostess smiled her approval. “We do indeed”. She poured a glass of champagne and handed it to Dora.

Lifting the glass she sent a silent toast to Alex. “Here is to Living More Bravely, Alex”. Smiling, she relaxed back into her seat and unfolded her trashy gossip magazine.




As they came closer to Geneva, Dora almost regretted not fighting for a window seat. Peering past the couple next to her, she could see the Alps in the distance. As the plane circled over Lake Geneva, she glimpsed the famous Jet d’Eau fountain shooting out of the lake. A feeling of excitement filled her, she was really here. She now lived in Geneva.

Exiting the airport with the keys to her hire car in her hands, Dora looked around for the car park. The sun shone in her eyes, blinding her. She fumbled in her bag for her sunglasses then finally noticed a sign for the hire car company.

“Bonjour. Erm. Parlez vous Anglais?”, she asked hesitantly.

“Oui, Madame. I do. You have reserved a car?”.

Sighing in relief, Dora handed over her contract. She could have spoken some French but for now it seemed easier to stick to English. Colleagues had told her that many of the locals spoke English, particularly those who worked in the tourist trade.

As she steered the car gingerly out of the car park, she had a moment of panic about driving on the wrong side of the road. Taking a deep breath she told herself not to be daft, she had driven in France on holiday before, it was no different. The sat nav was programmed to direct her to her hotel where she would stay for several nights until her furniture arrived and her apartment was ready. 

Switching on the radio, she opened the windows of the car to let the sultry afternoon air flow through the car. She sang along with Lady Gaga as she stopped at a traffic light, looking around. The road seemed to be the main route into the city, four lanes split in the middle by a tram line. The tram whooshed past her, making her jump a little. According to her sat nav she should go straight down then turn right at the next junction, but the road was blocked.

She spotted a “Deviation” sign – would that be “diversion”, she wondered, growing slightly frantic. Following the sign she turned right at the next traffic light. Her sat nav admonished her to turn around when possible. Argh, now left turn, but she was in the wrong lane. Indicating, she appealed to the other drives to let her change lanes. A cacophony of horns greeted this move, as she now blocked both lanes.

“Shit. Shit. Shit. Sorry. Oh, for the love of God, will someone let me change lanes”, she wailed.

A gap opened in the traffic and she shot out to take advantage, slipping into the other lane and turning into the quieter street. She caught a glimpse of shimmering cobalt water at the end of the street before spotting the hotel. Hurrah. She had made it.

The underground parking garage was dark and cool. Dora took her sunglasses off and concentrated on maneuvering in the narrow lanes. Thanking her stars that she had hired a small car, she searched for a space close to the entrance to the hotel. She hurriedly retrieved her suitcases from the boot of the car and strode towards the elevator, looking nervously over her shoulder. Her uneasiness annoyed her, she was normally a confident woman. The lift arrived and she hurried inside, breathing a sigh of relief as the lift moved slowly up to the ground floor.

Checking in to the hotel was done swiftly, the attractive blonde woman spoke slightly accented English and smiled pleasantly while obviously trying not to stare at Dora’s face. “If there is anything that you need, Madame, please contact reception”.

Dora needed peace and a stiff drink, but didn’t like to say so she thanked the woman and gathered her belongings. A staff member appeared to assist her with her cases, to her great relief. He escorted her to her hotel room, then disappeared before she had finished her internal debate on whether to tip him. She couldn’t remember if it was done here.

Sinking to the bed, exhausted by the emotional upheaval, she considered ordering a meal from room service and going to bed early, a notion that she would never have considered a week earlier. She crossed to the window and opened the curtains.

She had a room with a view! Suddenly seized by a feeling of needing to get out of the hotel, she gave her hair a quick brush, reapplied her lipstick, snatched her key and headed out of the room.

Slipping her sunglasses on to protect from both the sun and inquisitive gazes, she headed down to the lake. The light reflected off the water, a boat glided past, tourists strolled by. There was a small beach bar further up the lakeside so Dora headed in that direction. It was still warm, the cardigan that she had knotted around her waist as yet unneeded. Dora ordered a glass of wine – Chasselas, the local speciality – and looked around for a seat. There were only a few tables and chairs, this was a very informal bar. Two basic white kitchen units, with a couple of fridges under a straw roof. Many of the guests were sprawled on the grass behind the bar. There was a low stone wall in front of the small harbour, Dora sat and gazed out at the lake. She felt calm and rested, for the first time since Friday evening.

Sipping her wine she forgot about the police, the hospital, the counselor, the horror in her parent’s eyes when they saw her on Saturday morning. She watched the waves caused by a passing boat lap against the shore, lulled by the gentle ebb and flow of a dozen different languages around her.

Tomorrow she would pick up the keys of her apartment and go into the office for the first time. She would not hide. She would not be afraid. Sliding her phone out of her pocket, she phoned Alex, “Are you ready to feel absolutely green with envy? Then I shall tell you where I am and what I am doing…”










Read Chapter Four

Friday, 25 March 2011

KateandWillSmug - New Royal Wedding Memorabilia Competition

Now, I bake. I enjoy baking but I am not an Artisan Baker. My cakes are reasonably good but they are not works of art.

Sometimes I look at blogs and websites of professional bakers and wish that I had the patience and skill to create cakes like these 
















Right. Now stop slobbering and pay attention.

You have the opportunity right here and now to WIN some Kitschnbake goodies. 

Very easily. All you have to do is join in our KateAndWillSmug competition. 

Regular readers of my blog will know that I have a strange and not quite serious fascination with the Royal Wedding Tat, of the sort that features on the Royal Wedding Tat  website. Some of you have already joined in the fun.

Now it gets serious. With the prize now being some wonderful goodies from Kitschnbake, which will be sent to the winner in time for the Royal Wedding Garden party. Mary-Jane has sourced some wonderful regal cake toppers especially for the competition and has designed Kitschnbake Royal Wedding Cake Souvenirs.


The Rules of the KateAndWillSmug Competition are as follows:

1. Buy (or make) an item of Royal Wedding Tat

2. Display it in your home.

3. Points will be awarded for the following:

- guest noticing the Royal Weddding Tat - 1 point

- guest expressing surprise - 1 point

- guest expressing horror - 1 point

- guest using profanity to express surprise and/or horror - 2 points

- guest laughing hysterically - 2 points

- guest admiring Royal Wedding Tat - 5 points

- guest requesting where the item of Royal Wedding Tat was purchased, in order to buy one - 10 points


Special award of pointage at the discretion of the judges (MmeLindt and Kitschnbake) for particularly tacky or large expression of Royal Wedding admiration. Such as this lifesized cardboard cut out:



Or if you are known to be a staunch anti-Royalist. Or for arranging the Royal Wedding Tat amongst particularly tasteful items in your home, such as between your Catherine Kidson or Nigella Lawson bakeware.

Judges decisions are final. If no one takes part, the cakes shall be consumed by the Judges themselves. 

Leave a comment below or tweet me - @kateandwillsmug and I will add you to the spreadsheet. When a visitor comments on your Royal Wedding Tat, let me know and I will update your score. 

Let the battle commence.

UPDATE

Look what arrived, just in time for the KateandWillSmug competition. [bling]




- Thanks Mum, for the postal service. 

Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Goodbye Winter, Hello Spring

Tonight we went to the Fête de Bonhomme Neige - the Snowman Festival - with ritual burning of the snowman to mark the end of winter.

Not that there was much of a winter to speak of this year. The ski resorts of Morzine, Avoriaz, Chamonix et al were pretty much bare this year. We had a big dump of snow the first week of December which thawed not long after, then another flurry around Christmas and that has been just about it. The mountains had a bit more than we did, but from what we could see, not much. The snow cannons have certainly earned their keep this year, and it is a credit to the resort owners that they managed to keep everything running as normal, despite the lack of snow.

Perhaps this was why the village decided to mark the end of winter, by building a huge bonfire, complete with snowman effigy. This was done in the grounds of the retirement home, high on the hill above the village, enabling the village elders to take part in the celebration.



























In typical organised Swiss style, the villagers enjoyed the wine, cheese and soup that the commune had supplied while the children played in the grounds of the retirement home. It has often struck me how child-friendly the Swiss are. They have a small play area in the grounds of the home so that visiting children can play while their parents visit elderly relatives. I have never seen that anywhere else - all to often parents are discouraged to bring their children.












In the shadow of the great tower, the fire brigade had built a bonfire. A quick scoosh of fire lighter, and whoooosh, up it went. To the cheers of the children who were assembled around the fire, to close for comfort for some of us expat parents. There is no fence, no safety perimeter, no 'Elf and Safety officer. There were several firemen who waved the children back if they go too close, but at times the children were very close indeed.












 As the fire grew, the children became more excited. The flames teased the snowman, first igniting his hair, then his eyebrows until he was consumed by the fire. The children whooped and hollered gleefully.






























As the fire slowly burned lower, the children wandered off to explore the grounds of the retirement home until one by one they were called back by their parents to set off for home, grumbling quietly about wanting to stay just one minute more please.








Saturday, 19 March 2011

Visiting Geneva With Children - City Walk

One of the things that we noticed when we moved to Geneva is that the Swiss are very child-friendly. It is a great place to raise a family. Children are a part of everyday life here and are welcomed almost everywhere. You can go into even the most exclusive restaurant with your children and they will be greeted with a friendly smile. Even going for a meal in the evening is no problem.

If you are planning a short trip to Geneva this walk will take you around the main attractions of Geneva without boring the children.

Start: Parc de la Grange/Parc des Eaux Vives
Geneva is full of parks. Take a walk around the town, taking in the most important sights and stop for a break in the many parks and playgrounds around the town. When we go into town, we park near the Parc des Eaux Vives, wander through the rose garden then up to the children's play area in the Parc de la Grange to let them run off some steam. The play area is quite large, with several slides, ladders and bridges between them. It is suitable for all ages. There is a small cafe nearby that is open in summer, or you can take a picnic. Next to the play area is a public WC. 


After a while you can gather the children up and walk back down to the lakeside, enjoying the views of the lake that you have from this slightly elevated position. 







When you get down to the lake, turn left towards the town. You won't get far though, because opposite the park is a incredible play park on a small beach - Baby Plage. This is fantastic for slightly older children. It is a slightly surreal looking play park - the trees are festooned with bicycle tyres and tubes, knotted together to make a climbing frame and swings. This is the favourite park of our children, and the small summertime cafe right next to it means that parents can linger over coffee and enjoy the view. 
You may already be sensing a theme - the best parks have both a cafe and a loo. The public WC at Baby Plage is a bit grotty so hold your nose and take some tissues - it is a "French" hole in the ground one, although there is one sit down toilet for those who have not yet mastered the squat and pee position. 

Moving on to more pleasant topics, as we wander on along the lake side to the Jet d'Eau, Geneva's landmark fountain. Walk out along the pier, watching out for change in wind direction as you can get very wet. In late July to early August the lakefront is transformed into a massive fairground for the Fête de Genève - if you are lucky enough to be here the opening weekend you can catch the air show. 








There are several ice cream parlours along the lakeside but the best ice cream is just a short walk away in Gelato Mania in Eaux Vives (I think this pic is the one near the train station, will upload one from Eaux Vives next time we are in town but it looks similar). 




If you are in Geneva on Wednesday or Saturday before 1pm, make sure you have a look at the farmers' market at Rive - on other days there is the indoor market,  Halle de Rive for fresh fruit, fish and baked goods. 

Head into towards the town centre, along the main shopping street to the Rue de la Confederation. A great place to have lunch is Globus, at Place du Molard where you can have a panini or some tapas, a bowl of soup or - our favourite - chicken sweet and sour with rice. Or just a coffee and delicious cake or pastry. 


At the end of the main shopping street turn left along the Rue du Stand where the Swiss and Genevan flags line the beautiful old boulevard. At the other end of the Rue du Stand you will find the Parc de Bastion which is well loved by young and old. There is a small shady play area here, with a sand pit. It is a good place for younger children and toddlers. Your walk continues through the park, past the Reformation Wall. 

At the end of the park there is a steep slope up to the old town to the longest bench in the world. Another small play area keeps the children amused while you look down over the Parc de Bastion and over towards the Saleve mountain.






Around the corner is the Hôtel de Ville - don't miss the opportunity to check out the cannons here, always a big hit with the kids.

Keep the Hôtel de Ville on your right, walk down to the Hotel des Armures, and turn right towards the Cathédrale Saint-Pierre. If you are still feeling fit, you can climb the 157 steps to the top of the north tower of the cathedral for a fantastic view of the town. 

From the Cathedral wander back up to the Rue de Hôtel de Ville, turn left and head for the charming Place du bourg-de-four. In the restaurant Chez ma cousin you can eat roast chicken at a very reasonable price - delicious, fast and great value food. Nowhere else in Geneva can you feed a family so inexpensively - half chicken with chips and salad for just CHF 14.90. Be prepared to wait a while for a table if you go after 8pm, or reserve a table. 

By now, you are tired and ready to go back to your hotel, pretty sure that the children will sleep well tonight. I will do another blog post about other child-friendly attractions in Geneva some time soon,  Ã  bientôt!

Friday, 18 March 2011

Kate's Dress

Has so much fuss ever been made about a dress that was made by a student, worn by another student that caused a male student to exclaim, "Phwoar, she is a bit of alright!"?






The dress that Charlotte Todd designed for a charity auction in St Andrews cost just £30 to make and was worn by none other than Kate Middleton who apparently caught the eye of a Prince.

Yesterday it was sold in auction for the sum of £78 000, far surpassing the other auctions of actual proper dresses by reknowned designers Zanda Rhodes and Catherine Walker, worn by Princess Diana.

Now, I am enjoying the whole Royal Wedding hype and feel it is time to make it clear (in case it isn't already) that my buying of memorabilia is not because I admire and adore Kate Middleton, but just a bit of a laugh. I am not a sad cat lady, surrounded by Royal tat. Honest.

And so it is mind-boggling for me to read that someone spent the amount of money that could buy small ex-coucil house in Scotland on a dress that was made of lace and a few ribbons.


I can see the point of buying the Zandra Rhodes or the Catherine Walker - although perhaps not iconic "Diana" dresses in the sense that we remember her wearing them, they are at least  wearable - if you fancied wearing the dress of a dead Princess, which to be honest is a bit creepy. What do people do when with the dresses? Are they admired in a museum, or added to a private collection?

The Zandra Rhodes was sold for £30k and the Catherine Walker for £36k.

Wednesday, 16 March 2011

Dora - Chapter Two

Chapter Two 





Read Chapter One here first .


Dora put the last folder in the packing box and gazed at her office. She had been working here for the past four years and it was strange to think that this was the last time she would cross to the window and look out at the London streets, busy and bustling as ever.

The old man across the road was shutting up his flower shop, emptying the buckets into the gutter, putting the tables into the shop. She remembered when she first started working here, she would often pick up a small bunch of flowers for her desk. That was when she had a tidy organised desk, before she had piles of folders, notes and books with the odd coffee cup dotted around for a bit of colour and a penicillin culture. Back then, she thought she was busy if she was working on three cases simultaneously. Now she often juggled 8 or 9 cases and was still asked if she had time to take on another by one of the partners.

The move to Geneva would bring her one step closer to making partner. This was her chance to show the management that she was up to the challenge. In Switzerland, she would be working in a small office and would be one of the senior counsellors.

She closed the window, picked up her box and took one last look around the office before walking out and shutting the door softly behind her.

“Dora. I have been looking for you. Would you come into my office for a moment?”, Mr Wilson, one of the senior partners, beckoned her.

Damn. She had planned to sneak out before he noticed her and gave her some more work to do. Her weekend was planned; she needed to finish sorting out her flat before the packers came on Monday. Not to mention a last farewell dinner with friends and family. It had been a very long goodbye. Her mother did not seem to realise that she was only going to Geneva, not to Mars.

Setting her box down on one of the secretaries’ desks, she crossed to Wilson’s office. He was a decent boss but not one to allow his staff to sit around and chat. She was surprised to see that his secretary had gone home already; she normally stayed until Wilson left.

Opening the door to Wilson’s office, she walked through then stepped back in shock as a dozen of her colleagues shouted, “SURPRISE!”.

“You didn’t think that we would let you jet to off to Geneva without at least a farewell drink?”, Mr Wilson smiled at her shock, handing her a glass of champagne, “Good luck in Geneva, we will look forward to hearing how you are doing”.

My God. He was even smiling. Dora wondered how many glasses of champagne he had drunk before she arrived. His usually impeccable shirt was slightly wrinkled and he had even taken off his tie.

“Ah, thank you “, Dora stammered embarrassed to have been caught on the hop. She frowned at her secretary, Mary who might at least have given her a heads-up.

“Speech... speech!”, shouted one of the junior counsellors.

Oh, God. No. Not a speech. She wanted to go home, sit on the couch, have a pizza delivered and gorge on ice cream. Now she was stuck in the office delivering a speech. 

Smiling bravely, she muttered a few words about being very grateful for the opportunity and how she would miss everyone in the office, “except Simon”, she glared at the junior counsellor who had put her on the spot, to laughs of approval.




Later that evening Dora wandered restlessly around her apartment. The last couple of months had been so busy, she had hardly caught her breath. Now she had nothing left to do until the movers came on Monday and she was beginning to get cold feet. Ice cold feet.

What on earth was she thinking? Moving to Geneva, when she spoke no French. Sure, she would only be speaking English in the office but she would not be in the office all the time. She would have to go shopping, order a meal in a restaurant, speak with a doctor. Although, some of her colleagues still did not speak any French – despite living in Geneva for years.
She would be different, she resolved. No way was she going to be a typical expat, she would learn French. She would not be stuck in an expat bubble. She would have fun.

Inner pep-talk over she fired up her computer to check her emails. Two from Finlay today, which like the others he had sent went straight to her trash folder. She had a quick look, despite telling herself she should not. It was similar to the others he had sent. Started out apologetic, moved quickly to whiny and then on to abusive and nasty. She hoped that he would leave her in peace once she moved away. She was fed up hiding in her apartment to avoid him. When he came to pick up his belongings, she made sure that Alex was with her but since then he constantly turned up in the bars and restaurants that she frequented. She was getting tired of leaving early to avoid unpleasant remarks.

She also had an email from the company relocation agent – arranging the time to meet her at her new apartment for the handover. She would have a few nights in a hotel close to the office before her furniture arrived by road.

When the phone rang, she checked caller-ID to ensure that it was not Finlay then picked up with relief. “Hi Alex. I thought you were Finlay for a moment. He’s emailed twice already today.”

“What an idiot. When is he going to get the message? Listen, do you fancy coming around for a glass of wine. I know we are going out tomorrow night with the rest of the gang, but thought you might need some distraction. Or shall I come to yours?”

“I have ice cream. And alcohol needing used up before the move. Come here”, Dora replied. One of the restrictions the company had on their removal policy was no transport of alcohol. Due to strict Swiss customs regulations, she was forbidden to take any wine or spirits as it could delay the customs procedures. Not that she had a huge expensive wine cellar to import, but there were a couple of bottles of champagne and some spirits. These were mostly gifts she had received over the years, often to her dismay. Did she really look like the kind of woman who drank Baileys and Bacardi, she thought with a frown. Looks like Mum will be getting a couple of bottles on Sunday.

The doorbell rang, interrupting her contemplation. Alex lived just two streets away, she would miss having a gried so close. She pressed the button for the door opener and went back into the apartment to find the corkscrew. Pulling her cardigan closer around her body against the cold draft from the hall, she called out, “C’mon. Hurry up. You are letting all the cold in”.

She came out of the kitchen, holding a bottle of white wine in one hand and two glasses in the other to find Finlay closing the door behind him. “Expecting company, are you?”, he asked snidely. “Didn’t take you long to replace me”.

“Get out. Get out of my apartment right now”.

“No. I want you back, Dora. I know I made a mistake but that was only because you spent more time at work than with me. If you hadn’t been so obsessed with your career, we could be married by now”

“Don’t be ridiculous, Finlay. We split up because you were shagging other women. Don’t think your so-called friends didn’t let me know about the others. They were gagging to tell me that Shannon wasn’t the only one you had been entertaining while I was at work”

“That is a lie. She was the only one, and only because she chased me. She would not let me alone. I didn’t want her, I wanted you but you were so cold and frigid.”

“Oh, that is rich. Call me frigid now. Because I didn’t want sex everytime you fancied it”.

Changing tack, he walked towards her, hands outstretched, his eyes filled with tears. “I know I messed up. I am sorry. Please forgive me. I can’t live without you”.

She softened slightly. “I am sorry, Finn, but the trust is gone. I cannot be with someone I don’t trust”.

Taking her hand, he held it to his cheek. She could smell his aftershave, dark and musky and so familiar. “I will show you that you can trust me. I promise that I won’t ever let you down”.

She almost bought it. Almost. Then she thought of the other issues. His unpunctuality, unreliability, his reluctance to part with money, unless it was someone else’s money. She thought of how free she had felt since she had thrown him out. And she thought of that moment when she had walked in on him and Shannon.

Drawing back, the tears in her eyes drying, she shook her head. “No. Finlay. I am sorry. It is over. I am moving to Switzerland on Monday.”

Holding tight to her hand, he pleaded, “I can move to Switzerland. It will be cool. A new start for both of us. I can get a job there”.

“No. Finlay. Let me go”. She tugged at her hand. He pulled her towards him, wrapping his arms around her shoulders. Dora struggled but he was stronger. “Finlay”, she tried to stay calm. “Finn. You are hurting me. Let go”.

“No, Dora. You have to see that we are meant to be together”.

She began to struggle in earnest now, fear rising inside her. He had never threatened violence before, but he seemed like a different person, so cold and unfeeling. He backed her against the wall, his body hard and solid against hers. She pushed hard at his shoulders, but it was like pushing a wall. He bent his head and tried to kiss her but she twisted her head so that his kiss landed on her hair.

“Don’t do this, Finlay. Don’t”, she pleaded now. She tried to calculate how long Alex would be, she only lived minutes away. Why was she not here yet? Looking around for something – anything – that she could use as a weapon, she cursed herself for not checking the peephole before letting him in. Hadn’t she learned anything in her years in London?

Flailing behind her for the discarded bottle of wine, she struggled to reach it. It was just out of reach. She could almost touch it. She relaxed against him, hoping that he would soften his hold. “Finlay. You are right. We are meant to be together. Let’s go and sit down and talk about it. I will show you the pictures of our apartment in Geneva. You will like it, we have a view of the lake”, she could hardly talk for fear of what would happen next. He was holding her hair tightly wrapped around his fist, but loosened his hold at her words.

He lifted his hands, cupping her face gently in contrast to his harsh treatment just moments before. “I knew that you would see sense.” He moved toward her to kiss her and she wriggled out of his grasp, seizing the bottle of wine by its neck as she did so.
“Get away from me”, she yelled.”Get the fuck out my house”.

He made a grab for her but she was prepared and ducked out of reach. Moving towards the door, she kept a wary eye on him and a good grip of the bottle. Lucky she hadn’t found that corkscrew after all.

The door bell rang, splitting the tension and distracting her for a second. He pounced, she swung the bottle and he lashed out with his fist. He caught the side of her face, throwing her to the floor. She lay dazed on the wooden floor, watching the bottle of wine roll across the hall. It had not broken, she noticed. That was handy. Less to clean up.

She could hear footsteps, first heavy ones receding then lighter ones running up the stairs. “Dora! Oh, God. Dora. Are you all right? HELP! Someone help us please!”.

Doors along the corridor were opening, neighbours emerging to see what was going on. This was some farewell party, Dora thought, as she passed out.








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Dora opened the door of her apartment. Tilting her head she listened to the sound of Ravel’s Bolero filling the small space. “Shit”, she muttered under her breath. She knew what that meant, and she was NOT in the mood.

Frowning, she wondered how Finlay could have known that she was on her way home. She had not let him know that the meeting had been cancelled. She hung up her coat, took off her shoes and put them in the shoe cupboard, automatically reaching for Finlay’s shoes and jacket on the floor, where he had left them. Untidy bugger.

She stared at the second pair of shoes next to Finlay’s scuffed Converse boots. Red high heels. Not her red high heels. Where did they come from?

With a mounting sense of dread, she walked through the apartment, the dadadaduuuum of Bolero booming in her ears. The music rose to a crescendo as she opened the door of her bedroom. There on her bed – the bed that she bought from her very first wage packet – the bed that she had shared with Finlay for the past two years – was Finlay. And the red shoes lady. He was shagging another woman. In her bed. To Bolero. Was there another cliché left unturned? Could he be any more bloody predictable?

“What the FUCK are you doing?”, she screamed, even as she realised what a stupid question that was. It was obvious what they were doing – he was thrusting in time to the music, for God’s sake.

Stalking over to the armoire, she plucked his iPhone out of the docking station, cutting Ravel off. In the silence that followed, two shocked faces turned towards her. “Fuck. Fuck. Dora. It’s not what it looks like”, he stammered.

His blonde hair falling down over her forehead, in that preppy way that she always found adorable, Finlay reached for her. Dora snorted, “It bloody well is what it looks like. You’re shagging another woman in my bed”, she looked more closely at the woman. “Do I know you?”.

MsRedHighHeels was recovering her poise remarkable quickly, she must have been in this position before, Dora mused cattily. “We met at the band rehearsal last week. The bass player is my brother.” Dora remembered her now. She had been all over the band, flirting and fluttering her eyelashes. Groupies were a part of being in a band, but Finlay had always said that he wasn’t interested in them. Dora wondered if this one was the first.

“Right, get out. Both of you. Finlay, you can come back tomorrow to pick up your things. I don’t want to see you again”.

Turning on her heel, she stormed out of the bedroom, pausing only to drop Finlay’s beloved iPhone into the glass of beer that was still sitting next to the sofa from last night. He sprang out of bed, vaulted across the sofa to rescue his phone in the most energetic display that she had seen in months. “You BITCH”, he howled. She gazed at him, naked except for a pair of white tennis socks, a dripping iPhone in his hand and smiled, “I’m going to Starbucks for a coffee. I ‘ll be back in 30 minutes. You and your floozy had better be gone by then”.





 “Floozy? You didn’t really call her a floozy, did you”, Dora’s best friend struggled with laughter.

“I did. It suited her. Alex, you should have seen the red high heels. Bloody wicked witch of the West. It’s all right, you can laugh.”

“Sorry, I know it’s not funny but the thought of him playing the sophisticated seducer – why on earth was he playing Bolero?”

“It’s the only classical music on his iPhone – I think it was on a compilation of 50 Best TV Sports Moments or something. He liked to play it when we... well, you know”, Dora admitted.

Alex lost it. She laughed until tears ran down her face. After a moment, Dora joined in. It took some time until she was composed enough to say, “I know it’s awful, but he said that it made him feel like James Bond”, which set them off again.

They were a striking pair of women, even without the borderline hysteria. Dora attracted attention wherever she went – it was inevitable when you had flame coloured hair and green eyes. For work she kept her hair tamed in a neat(ish) bun at the nape of her neck. Or at least it was neat when she left the house in the morning. As soon as she left work, she took the pins out of her hair; it was almost a ritual, shaking the day’s work out of her hair as she walked home. Her tall rangy figure striding along the streets of London made heads turn.

Alex liked to joke that she became friends with Dora because they were such opposites. Dora’s wild red curls and Alex’s sleek dark bob. Where Dora was tall and slim, Alex was short and curvy. Voluptuous. “Oh, alright, overweight, dammit”, Alex would complain, “and there is nothing worse than being the fat friend of a gorgeous skinny woman”.

Dora would retort that she would sell her grandmother if she could have Alex’s boobs,, and so they would banter on, each secure in the knowledge that there was no malice behind their comments, but deep and honest affection.

After several minutes of uncontrollable laughter, Dora took a deep breath, trying to stop sniggering. She signalled the waiter to bring another two drinks. Meeting Alex for drinks was a much better idea than sitting in Starbucks crying into a Chai Latte. The first thing she had done on leaving the apartment was to phone Alex, who had told her boss that there was a family emergency and she had to leave early.

The waiter strutted towards them, his bad boy pose studied, his dark eyes smouldering. Placing fresh drinks in front of them, he smiled seductively at the two women. “Can I do anything else for you ladies?” he asked, as he raised an eyebrow.

Dora looked at her friend, biting the inside of her mouth to keep from laughing, “Thank you, we are completely satisfied for now”, she smiled. He retreated, sighing as the sound of sniggers, then giggles, and finally full blown hysterical laughter followed him back to the bar.




Dora sobered suddenly. “I guess this makes the decision easier – I was offered a new job today, but was going to turn it down.”

“What?”, Alex struggled to catch up, “A new job? Why were you going to turn it down?”

“It’s in Geneva. It’s a great opportunity but I stupidly hesitated because I didn’t think that Finlay would go with me. Seems I don’t have to worry about that any more. It will also keep me out of his way. I can’t see him just accepting that it is over”.

Alex nodded, “He’s far too fond of the cushy life to want to give you up. Don’t look at me that way, Dora. You know he’s a lazy bastard; he’s been relying on you for months now, ever since he lost his job”.

“It wasn’t his fault that he was fired. His boss hated him from the first day”.

“Maybe, but he hasn’t gone out of his way to find a new job. You have been supporting him for months, so that he can chase his dream of becoming the next Mick Jagger“

“Only, slightly more attractive than old rubber face Jagger”, Dora laughed. “I know you’re right, but I was hoping that he’d either find a new job or get famous. It has been a strain financially. If I go to Geneva, the company will pay the apartment there, so I could sell the flat here, or rent it out. It will give me a chance to pay off my Visa bill at last, and I could save some money to have a decent down payment when I return. It would be madness not to take the job, and it sounds like a really interesting assignment, but I would miss all my friends”.

“Trust me, if you move to Geneva, you will have no end of visitors. It will be just like living here, but with better weather and sexier men. They speak French there, don’t they? How is your French?”

“Schoolgirlesque. I can ask the way to the Gare and ask for a room for the night, but that is about it. They speak English in the office so that won’t be a problem, and I guess I’ll pick up the lingo as I go along. Do you think I should do it?”

“Yes. Absolutely. And not just because I want a free holiday in Geneva,” Alex slung an arm around Dora’s shoulders. “You are 25 years old, single, intelligent, funny, attractive and a damn good friend. Have fun. Remember our New Year’s Resolution? Live More Bravely.”

Dora nodded. “Live More Bravely. We promised we would do something special this year. This is it”.

Dora raised her glass, “A toast. To Living More Bravely”, she declared. 








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